By the time a lot of couples consider visiting a counsellor, they are already on the brink of ending their relationship. There are a number of pressures which can have an adverse impact on a relationship, making it difficult for you and your partner to communicate. Counselling can help to break down these barriers to communication so you can identify and deal with things which are causing an issue in your relationship. Below is a guide to some issues which could be causing problems in your relationship and how attending a counselling session can help you and your partner to deal with them.
Money is a primary cause of tensions within a relationship. While debt and financial worries can place stress on a relationship, being rich can also bring its own problems, as one partner may be jealous that the other partner has more money and therefore more power. Problems can also arise if one partner is a spender and the other a saver, as this can lead to disputes about who contributes what to the household budget. You and your partner's attitude towards money can often be grounded in childhood experiences. A counsellor will help you to understand how you feel towards money and to negotiate a better understanding of how you can manage your money as a team.
Having and raising children
Having and raising children can also place a great deal of strain on a relationship. It could be that you and your partner disagreed about when to start a family, or if you already have kids, you may wish to bring them up in a different way. A counsellor will allow you and your partner to discuss your thoughts and feelings about starting and raising a family in a safe and confidential way. It is likely that your views on raising a family will be coloured by the experiences you had when growing up. For example, if one parent was emotionally abusive to you when you were a child, this may make you worry that you will be a bad parent to your children also. By exploring your thoughts and feelings with a counsellor, you and your partner can make sure you start you family from a position of stability.
If your relationship with your partner is in a bad place and you would like some help, you should contact a professional counsellor today for further advice.Share
19 June 2017
Hello, my name is Gary and this is my counselling blog. When I was a boy, my dad was very strict with me. Whenever I got upset, he would tell me not to worry and to keep a stiff upper lip. Any expression of emotion was frowned upon within the household. As a result of this, I never really learnt the skills I needed to properly deal with my emotions. As I got older, I started to drink more and more in order to deal with my feelings of sadness and rage. My friend became worried about me and suggested that I visit a counsellor. It was one the best things I ever did. Talking with someone I trust has really helped me to open up and explore my feelings.